Sexual Q&A: What's so hot about that?

A male reader emailed me to ask me what it is that men find so hot about the stockings-‘n-panties look. I said, “Can’t help you! I’m a girl!”
So, boys, what’s the deal? Does it get you riled, too? Can you pinpoint why?
Me, if I was a guy, it’d likely be the whole Meg Ryan panties’n’tank top look that’d get me hot, and it’s been that way with some of the guys I’ve been with. Hell, I don’t even need to be a guy to find that hot. It bothers me when neighbour chicks across the way wander their apartments that way. Can’t help but watch.
So, let’s hear it. And, girls, what about you? You partial to either?

22 thoughts on “Sexual Q&A: What's so hot about that?

  1. Reg Dunlop

    I’ve always been more of a panties and tank guy myself. It kind of rolls with the comfy, sexy, no games or strings (figurative, not literal) kind of vibe I really get into. Plus, bunny slippers are a perfect accessory, and who doesn’t love bunny slippers?

    The stockings and panties look really says “pro” to me. Maybe it doesn’t definately mean prostitute or stripper, but it sends me the message that the woman had the goal or expectation of sex before even leaving her house, and definately means business. I think it kind of shifts the agression to the woman in a sexy way, which is a pretty nice break from comfort occasionally. Maybe that’s the appeal.

  2. figleaf

    Hi Steff,

    Strictly speaking I’m a bigger fan of the tank and panties look but I understand the appeal of stockings. They accentuate the shape of the legs by increasing shadows and light (fishnets really do this.) They also accentuate the skin between stocking top and panty legs and that’s lovely too. Even more so since the tops tend to mark the boundary between casual and intimate touch.

    Leg warmers (all the rage in the 1970s) had the same effect and went *very* nicely with the tank and panties look.

    Some people (not just men) just like the way nylon feels on skin, and for them pantyhose are even nicer since they go all the way up. That doesn’t appeal to me (ugg, pantyhose) but I can understand how other people might like it.

    Does any of that help?

    Take care,

    figleaf

  3. scribe called steff

    Sorry guys, I have to apologize — I never would’ve taken this post down and put it away for later had I known there were comments. I’m loathe to do that. I’m blaming Blogger for not displaying the fact that there were comments. I reposted it and presto — discovered there were two comments. Did not know!

    Goodie, you both like the same look I favour. Spiffy.

    (But here’s a plus to the posting going away and coming back — a nice tasty photo.)

  4. char

    I personally don’t like wearing stockings but my boyfriend thinks the world of them. He says the way they create a silky silhouette on my legs is very sexy…

  5. Simply Her

    Oh this will be hard to answer because in a girl, I’d like her with the tank & panties look. it is more natural. atleast I think so. but I’m not a man so I couldn’t really say… I guess each to their own sexiness. everyone has their own tastes.

  6. Sazzle

    Hmm I don’t know. I love sexy underwear and I love cute underwear also, depending on what mood I’m in. I guess stockings and stuff would be a major effort though I am trying to do matching sets as much as possible (and always on dates, just in case). I guess I’d only do stockings to make an effort, which must be what guys like, the effort? I know tons of guys that rave over them, and I think it’s the bit of flesh at the top. The tank and panties is kinda sleepoverish and playful, just got out of bed thing. Both are attractive, but I think it’s to do with romanticisation in the media of the former, and old fashioned notions of what women should wear. I say wear what makes you feel good as a woman, because feeling good about yourself helps great sex more than what turns your partner on, there are plenty other ways to turn someone on πŸ˜‰

  7. Walking Wounded

    I’m a panty and tank kind of guy. They seem to represent that light hearted, flirty, girl next door thing. I also like it when they wear one of my tee-shirts commando or when they run around in one of my button up dress shirts commando. (ooh baby!)

    Lacy lingerie, stockings and panties can look fabulous but it doesn’t really turn me on. Not nearly as much as seeing nipples poking through a t-shirt that barely covers the bottom of her ass OR a dress short with only like “two” buttons buttoned (to tease me, I know) so that when she walks across the room the bottom of the dress shirts opens just enough and the top collar hangs barely on top of the shoulders so that her breasts are allowed to peek at my every so often… YUMMY!

    I know what you are thing, “Dave, simmer down, dude!”

    Yeah I better take a cold shower πŸ˜‰

    Peace

  8. scribe called steff

    char — well, if it keeps him happy, eh? welcome to the board, since i haven’t seen you comment before. πŸ™‚

    simply — this is true. i think meg ryan defined “cute’n’hot” in all her roles with those cute drawstring jammy pants and the tanks. always thought she looked hot that way. most chicks do.

    sazzle — welcome! variety is good. this i’m told. πŸ™‚

    walking wounded — ha. well, i just changed into a t-shirt and panties for the night, so it’s a good thing you’ve gone off to cool down.

  9. Hermes

    I don’t have an opinion on panties and stockings, but I sure love those clear, stiletto stripper shoes.

  10. Adz

    You changed that last comment steff. Good choice! Perhaps i’ll write a piece or email you on the episodes I have encountered dressed in stockings and panties etc etc. I don’t think such talk is necessary on comments!

  11. Sazzle

    I thought I’d try and get a man’s point of view, I knew this guy likes the stockings thing, and he brought up panties as horrible so I thought I’d ask him why he likes stockings so much. His answer? NO idea. So yeh I’m stumped. I’m going back to the comfort thing, if you feel comfortable and sexy, good sex will result.

  12. scribe called steff

    ADZ — Oh, of course such talk is necessary in comments. Don’t be silly! This is my cyber-voyeurism. I give a little, but so love doing the taking, too.

    Sazzle — Yeah, I think that kind of thing is difficult to pinpoint. What are we attracted by? Mysteries, really.

    But still, very, very enjoyable, no matter what the cause.

  13. TestSubjectXP

    Easy, two things…

    1) Legs are hot.

    2) It’s a tease. Anything that frames a woman’s body, leaving just enough uncovered to make you want the rest, is going to look hot to most guys.

    Am I partial to it? Nah. It’s one of a myriad of things that I think look hot on women.

  14. Sazzle

    I liked the idea someone put forward the end of casual to intimate touch! I’m likeing that as an explanation.

  15. ~Shade~

    IMHO.. being of the female persuasion.. it’s been in those above mentioned costumes that I learned one of my first lessons in sex… men like to be seduced.
    Most men… and I say most, in my experience, dream of the seductress. The one that knows what they, as men, want.. and in that no nonsense get up they see the aggressor. The woman that enjoys sex and isn’t afraid to touch and suck.

  16. Anonymous

    [I apologise if this appears twice. Didn’t seem to work the first time]

    Myself I prefer the stockings look. Its a combination of things that do it.

    Firstly, its an occasional look. Tank top and panties is sexy, but if I’m seeing that it means I’ll probably see it again. Stockings and french knickers? Something special is going on! Obviously if my girlfriend only wore stockings everyday, I’d probably get hard instantly if I caught her wearing just a tank top and panties with nothing underneath. You get my point.

    Secondly, it accentuates the legs. They make good legs look great. They make great legs look stunning! Granted as good boyfriends we love every part of a womans body no matter what, but that doesn’t stop us appreciating those stockinged legs a little more.

    Lastly: Mystery. Maybe I’m different to other men, but if I see a woman with stockings on, I have to wonder. Whats at the top of those beautiful legs? Some nice underwear? Matching bra? And off into fantasy-land.

    Someone said something like, it reminds them of prostitutes. I can see the connection but to me it makes me think classy and elegant, maybe a wild side. Perhaps prostitutes [and the like] wear it because they know how much of a turn on it is to men?

    -plown

  17. Jaded Thief

    It seems I’m in the minority, but I have always found the bra & blue jeans look hotter than anything else, and more comfortable.

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