A morning quickie post

It made my day to get an email this morning that said, “It’s such a treat to read a feminist who loves men!” She went on to say that my approach to sex makes it “sound so wholesome and natural yet deliciously kinky.”
These are the emails I love. When it comes to the bedroom, I’m able to balance being sensual, doting, and romantic with being pretty wicked and dominant when I feel like it. Sex is supposed to embrace all aspects of our personalities, and it’s the one time in our lives when we really have the chance be the person from our fantasies.
The trouble is, some of us require a person we really trust before we can be that uber-alterself. And trust isn’t all of it, either. We need to know things will be free of judgment. After all, if we will be judged for our behaviour, then where’s the incentive to perform?
Leave your hang-ups at the door, kids. Forget what society says is right or wrong. Just love the feeling of all you do, live in the moment, and forget what the preacher from the pulpit’s gonna think if he walks in.
The reader who sent me the above comments has made me giddy. I do try to be a feminist in the way I live my life, but I really, really resent women who seem to believe they have to hate men in order to be a strong woman. That’s bullshit. Let the men in your life be the men they are. There’s a lot to love about the strength and machismo found in today’s man, especially if they also bring empathy and passion into the mix.
Both sexes have wonderful things to offer. Being proud of our genders is something both sexes need to stop apologizing for. I want my men strong, assertive, and sometimes macho. It doesn’t make me any less of a feminist — maybe it makes me moreso, because it doesn’t threaten me.
Tonight or tomorrow, I’ll be posting some links to articles I’ve written in the last month, off-site. Stay tuned.

11 thoughts on “A morning quickie post

  1. chelsea girl

    Funny how great cunts think alike, dear Stephy Scribe. I just wrote something that would overlap your post in a Venn diagram, though I took a different tack.

    You know, to mix a few metaphors.

    But like your reader, I’m thankful you’re here and writing.

    You saucy feminista, you.

  2. Grover

    The way I would put it is that you elevate the act of sex to a higher level than most people do. You paint the art of making love in its purest form, free of insecurity and pretense. Your bold sense of freedom is why I admire you so much.

  3. papamamba

    course you gotta love the men! we’re great! nah…
    whole people don’t need to hate anyone.
    balance is perfection. don’t forget to swing.
    i enjoy your writing…

  4. papamamba

    by the way, re the photo. i’ve seen that movie, elena ballesteros is sexy as hell the whole way through it. nice choice.

  5. Anonymous

    I’m so happy I made your day! 🙂

    I find the magic ingredients are love and respect. That I can definitely feel when i read your posts on “Giving great head”
    (I can feel othr things too but that’s another story! ;))

    I mentioned to a friend that I loved my body (finally, after hating it for all those years!)and that I enjoyed stroking myself in front of the mirror.
    He then said that I was a narcissist.
    I answered that that wasn’t possible because Narcissus wasn’t capable of loving anyone so he fantasized on himself.
    The more you love yourself, the more you can love others.
    And if being a feminist is loving your womanhood, your femininity, that means you can love his manhood and masculinity.

    I’m a feminist too and I love men. thank you guys, where would we be without you!

    Angelpussy

  6. scribe called steff

    Oscar Wilde once said to love yourself was the beginning of a life-long romance. I don’t think he meant just masturbation, Angel.

    As for insecurities, I’ll be posting something on that sometime in the next week or so. Stay tuned.

    Everyone else: I’ll get back to you. 😛

  7. figleaf

    Actually the toughest thing is that people think you can’t be a feminist if you like men. Even the much misunderstood Andrea Dworkin thought men were great even if she didn’t like the social structure that had them in exclusive control of the driver’s seat or the attitude that made us believe that’s how nature intended it.

    On a personal note, Steff, I’m so happy you can be sensual, doting, romantic, pretty wicked, and dominant when you like to be. *That’s* how nature intended it.

    Thanks.

    figleaf

  8. scribe called steff

    CHELSEA — Thanks! I enjoyed your posting, too. Just left a note there. 🙂
    GROVER — Aww. Thanks. You should really read some of the links I’ve got kicking around, though, because some of these folks write awesome things about sex in their own right. You’re a peach, though, Andy.
    PAPAMAMBA — I haven’t seen the movie — just found the photo and thought it was hot. Some men are assholes, and some women are bitches. That’s how it all plays out. Balance is bliss. 🙂
    ANGEL — Right on, sister. And I stand by the Oscar Wilde quote. As I’ve said, I got a posting on insecurities I’m working on.
    JAZZ — Right back atcha. 🙂
    FIGLEAF — I know, it’s ridiculous. I had an asshole tell me I was a feminist last week and acuse me of wanting to hate men. I told him that by thinking that way about me, he just proved he was a chauvinist and wasn’t man enough to handle a strong woman. This was the guy that eventually bailed on me and led me to getting laid. It was a very amusing sequence of events, but it’s amazing how backwards people get it.
    SATISFIER — Hey, it is what it is! Or, as Bugs Bunny would say, I yam what I yam. Or was it Yosemite Sam?

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