Manscaping? How much?

A reader emailed me around Christmas and asked me something short and sweet:

“When you say you like your guys trimmed, how trimmed are we talking? For that matter, how trimmed have most of the guys you’ve been with been? Like, short? Really short? Shaved?”

Okay, here’s what I responded with:
I like a guy who gets rid of almost all his hair down there. My partners have used electric razors, the trimmer side, to just get rid of most of it, and that satisfies this girlie just fine. Apparently it’s easier to do with an erection, but what do I know? You may even want to experiment with the noxious chemical creams some of us girls use to get rid of the hair (Veet, etc), but that takes it right down to skin, and you may have reactions to the chemicals, in which case I got three words for ya: Burn, baby, burn.*
Less hair makes giving oral a much better experience, and makes me, personally, more likely to service the entire region, and not just the shaft. I’m not crazy about mandatory flossing during sex, that’s all. Your boys will get more attention, and all the sensitive skin around there, that’s usually covered with hair, will also get more attention.
Shaving it off completely might feel really great initially but will likely feel itchy when it starts to grow back in, since some of us girls experience that, so that’s something to be aware of. But you may even find that the hair itself, as it grows back in, can be really sensitive to sensation as it’s teased with fingers or a tongue, and that might be a really good bonus for you. Short, short is good enough for most chicks, I would imagine. Trim your inner thighs, too, if you want them nibbled lots’n’lots, but if you’re a cyclist or runner, be aware that it may cause some chaffing/in-grown hairs… Not altogether pleasant.
And if you’re one of those guys who’s hung up on size (“one of,” right, there’s an understatement) then there’s the bonus that your cock looks bigger when you do get rid of the hair, or at least drastically minimize it. Cheaper than enlargement surgery, too. That and a cock ring, and you’ll feel like King of the World.
I hear razors buzzing already.

*One of my readers has weighed in on this — he agrees, a dicey proposition. Read the comments for his experience.

10 thoughts on “Manscaping? How much?

  1. Wags

    Sorry to hear you’ve been sick, hope you feel better soon. As for the hair down there, I’d definitely do it, but one thing at a time. Perhaps its time for me to give internet dating another try.

  2. Sarah

    Amen sista! I can not stand a hairy man – it just feels so less intimate when you’re down there, worrying that you might pull on one of his hairs the wrong way and ruin a moment…

    I’m also a big fan of giving attention to other areas beside his shaft: inner thigh, his boys, all the sensitive regions – and lets be honest, if I wanted the bush-whacking experience I’d head down south!

  3. Southern

    Hope you’re feeling better..not enough feedback eh..:) The shaving goes both ways of course, I enjoy a trimmed puss..but also like the sight of a curly bush..the ying and the yang. I trim for my lover..course it would be nice if she did the trimming for me..:)

  4. jazz

    agree with this on all counts. absolutely cannot stand when a man doesn’t keep himself manicured down there….

  5. scribe called steff

    Wags — The e-dating thing can be trying, I know. So much time expended for so little results. I’ve had it work out a couple times, but it’s largely a missing experience. Hoping on a couple guys I’ve been talking to but haven’t had the time to hook up with — EXACTLY what I try to avoid. The whole chatting/emailing thing is such a waste of time when it pans out so seldom. I prefer meeting for a drink and getting on with it. And always, always shave beforehand, just in case. πŸ˜‰

    Sarah — Exactly. There’s no place I’d rather be than on an inner thigh. I just absolutely love working my way up a leg and doing the whole-region-tease thing, and a hairy guy puts a gal off of that. Hence, I return the favour and take very, very good care of my privates that way. A little quid pro quo goes a long ways in sex.

    Southern — Exactly. I’m the kinda gal who’ll speak up if she’s not getting the attention she deserves. It pays off, this speaking up thing. πŸ™‚ I think there’s an appeal for a little hair sometimes, that’s why I favour the so-called “landing strip.” Just a little, itty, bitty bit.

    Jazz — Yeah, talk about uninviting you from the party, huh? πŸ™‚ Happy new Year, girlie.

  6. Knattyb

    Just though i’d give out a general warning on those aforementioned creams. They’ll work great around the shaft, but get any on your boys and you’ll be feeling it for days.

    so not cool. lol.

  7. Bob

    Personally, I simply use a regular razor and shaving cream. Does the job just fine… smooth as a baby’s bottom when I am done. I leave a little tuft above the shaft for fun. Just wish I could get myself better around the backside. Guess I need to find a partner to assist in that department.

  8. scribe called steff

    Knatty — Oh, geez, that sounds like the pained voice of experience, bro. Oh, MY. Poor you. Yeah, I had the experience of accidentally letting the cream go too far south once, but I took that off within the first minute, and it stilled burned like shit for the next hour. (Towards the bum, that is. Never, ever go near the butt with that stuff!)

    Bob — Yeah, you know, I think it’s cool if partners playfully help each other with hair removal, especially with the wonderful vibrating buzziness of an electric razor. If your partner is open to you helping them stay trim, then make it a part of the fun.

  9. figleaf

    Well, most of us men shave our faces every day so (suspicion of anything new not withstanding) it’s not any harder to shave anywhere else we can find with a mirror and reach with a razor.

    In practice it’s a little trickier. First the whole manscaping thing is pretty new, at least in Western civilization. Second, opinion among women is very widely divided as to whether shaving is very cool or very gross. As you say, trimming is a nice compromise. (Example: I’ve shaved for various vasectomy-like operations — reversal and then re-vasectomy — and my partner just thought I looked silly.)

    My issue, since I have hair all over, is finding the right place to stop.

    Thanks for the great essay on the topic, Steff. You’re very good, one of the best.

    Take care,

    figleaf

  10. scribe called steff

    You rock, too, Fig. πŸ™‚

    Thanks for weighing in — I’d find a totally-shaven guy just a little bizarre, myself. I’m not really sure why, maybe the premise of a guy being that fixated on it might strike me as being unmasculine or something. I don’t want to feel like I’m with a toddler… and smooth as a baby’s behind might leave me feeling that way. Fortunately, I’ve not encountered it.

    Trimmed works for me, and I suppose the above reasoning might be why I prefer not to be completely hairless myself. It’s just odd… hair IS natural. The quantity thereof, though, is a matter of comfort. Maintained suits me fine.

    An interesting debate, more interesting than I thought it would be, actually. It was just filler, from my POV, at first. πŸ™‚

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