I think opposites attract on a personality level, but only to a degree. You can’t spend the whole arguing. If your high strung, you may want someone who is calm to balance you off. If you’re shy, you may want someone who is outgoing to balance you out.

From what I see, compatibility is important on an intelligence and physical level.

All for now, gotta catch a plane.

Best,

Haaaaaaa

I’ve been broken up with because I was “too gay.” It’s true, people can spot me. I’m an obvious lesbian, and I don’t care to take the steps to hide it unless my life is on the line. I like to be obvious– it makes me be a better, more honest person. This, however, is not a difference of attractiveness– it’s a deal-breaking difference of personal integrity. Note that while we were not on the same page of physical attractiveness (ex was cuter than me, conventionally speaking), we each thought the other plenty hot.

I think the main reason people end up with physical similarities or type-similarities is because of where they meet each other. Punk-types do punk-type-things, where they meet other punk-types, for example. Hippies don’t go to, I don’t know, petroleum conventions, and thus will not met petroleum corporate types. Having something in common helps, and while I might have a lot in common with someone completely the opposite of me, I am unlikely to meet that person at all, or talk to them long enough to figure out how well we’d go together.

I don’t think height really matters much, but it can bring some issues for some guys, for sure. Being 5’6, which isn’t that tall, I encountered a lot of guys who wouldn’t date me ‘cos they wanted at least 2 inches on a girl. Whatever. Not MY problem!

Pi — Yeah, we all have a bit in common, but the more common ground, I find, the more strengths you can gain. It’s not just about movies and shit like that, though, which I’ve written about recently, in my American Psycho posting, but it’s more than that. Commonality of values, beliefs, hopes, dispositions, etc. I think some people are just so happy to finally be in a relationship that they might lower the standards and ignore the gaps between them and their partners, in which case that’ll always fail. But there’s no accounting for attraction sometimes. This couple in the photo may truly be in love. He certainly seems to dig her. Whatever. Good for them.

Pervy — yeah, I don’t want a cookie-cutter guy. I want a guy who has some differences from me, can challenge me, and hopefully I can do the same. I think I have that, that we both have that, in my present relationship, and having that as groundwork has helped us endure some hard times in the short time we’ve been together. Everyone needs foundations, and commonality provides that, but so too do the complementary differences we all nurture.

I hate that Jerry Maguire quote. :)

I’d rather complement someone than complete them. I never want to be needed that much. I don’t think. I dunno. Hard question. Ponder ponder. (And I don’t have the time to tackle your last comment, but I think it was awesome, not non-sensical. I’ll tackle that tonight, after my job interview. :)

Imagine a couple where both partners are untidy, cant cook, and dont understand financial responsibilities. Sure they could still make it in the long run together, but really.…who would want to??

Some believe it, others don’t, I’ve seen it work and fail, so I think it’s still crap. (but a fun argument)

Look what the media and pop culture have done to us.

As for the opposites attract thing…it’s hard to find someone that is completely your opposite anyway, we all have *something* in common.