Marriage, Philosophy, and Sugasm #55

Life has thrown me yet another hurdle, and I’m presently percolating, just taking it in and figuring out my next step. Despite all the stuff that’s going down, I’m much more even-keeled than I’ve been in a year or two. I’m sure it’s being off the pill that’s making me better able to process events. Yay. More later. I gotta get into the mindset of writing again. Chores, chores, they never end.


Three years ago, one of my two bestest friends got hitched. Naturally, I was bummed. I think when your formerly rebellious friends settle down and get mature there’s this “god, I’m getting old” reaction that’s pretty natural. This was one of these.

I was, however, touched when I learned that the two of them wished for me to do a reading of my choosing at their wedding. Reading, I’ll have you know, is not something I take lightly, especially the kind done aloud in public. And while I may not desire wedding bells in my near or even distant future, I fully appreciate the importance and magnitude of declaring your love to be another’s, and for life, in front of everyone who means anything to you.

So, it was something I considered for a long and hard time. What would I read? What could possibly capture the magnitude of this choice they’d made? The Christmas prior, when he emailed me to say he proposed and she accepted, I responded “How surprisingly optimistic of you to ask at all.” He’d never been a big believer in marriage, you see. We can all change.

Inevitably, I discovered my answer was under my nose the whole time. Since childhood, I’d always seen the boxed special edition of Khalil Gibran’s The Prophet on the family bookshelf. When my mother died, it moved in with me. Gibran was a poet and philosopher who was born in Lebanon and died in 1931, and The Prophet could rightly be described as his masterwork.

Easily a dozen or more people approached me after the services and at the reception to find out more about the author. I think it’s a great statement about committing to another person in any way, and thought I’d put an excerpt here.

Then Almitra spoke again and said,
And what of Marriage, master?
And he answered, saying:
You were born together,
and together you shall be forevermore.
You shall be together
when the white wings of death
scatter your days.
Aye, you shall be together
even in the silent memory of God.
But let their be spaces
in your togetherness,
And let the winds of the heavens
dance between you.

Love one another,
but make not a bond of love:
Let it rather be a moving sea
between the shores of your souls.
Fill each other’s cup
but drink not from one cup.
Give one another of your bread,
but eat not from the same loaf.
Sing and dance together and be joyous,
but let each one of you be alone,
Even as the strings of a lute are alone
though they quiver with the same music.
Give your hearts,
but not into each other’s keeping.
For only the hand of Life
can contain your hearts.
And stand together
yet not too near together:
For the pillars of the temple
stand apart,
And the oak tree and the cypress
grow not in each other’s shadow.

Really, I was just trying to explain that I still needed hang-time with my friend. Ha.

Here’s this week’s Sugasm. Party on, Wayne.

This week’s best of the sex blogs from the bloggers who blog them.

This Week’s Picks
To Tell or Not to Tell… (
“Jane Falling claims it’s best not to tell, and she writes, ‘my identity as a prostitute is too serious a secret to trust with near-strangers.’”

Anti-Anti-Pornography, Part II (
“One question I would like to ask them is – were there any rape or child abuse cases *before* the invention of pornography?”

To Shave or Not to Shave (
“I stayed full bush for about my first two weeks as a live adult host.”

Mr. Sugasm Himself
Silence is better than bullshit (unless you’re a Gold-level member) (

Editors’ Choice
Pillow Talk: Interview with Razor Ryan (

Thoughts on Sex and Relationships

50 Sexual Things About Me (
Fun With Futanari (
I’m So Tired (
Rediscovering the Secret to Great Sex (

NSFW Pics (& videos)
Alison & Peachez (video) (
Chelsea (4) (video) (
Hotel Rendezvous (video) (
Jennifer Kotwal (
Mistress Natali Demore (Awesome ass!) (video) (
Nora Marlo (

Sex Work
A Soft Click (

Sex & Politics
RANT: Show Me The Pussy! (

Erotic Writing and Experiences
Buttered Up (
A Cure for Kleptomania? (
Down the Coast, Part II (
Flying Buttons (
Frenetic (
A holiday to remember. (
A Little Bit of Madness (
Mr Henry Recommends… (
Outdoor Sex (
Recipe for Suck Sex (
Saturday Night Fun a la The Wife (
Sharing her… (
Starfucker: My First Time Watching Sex (

Sexy Humor
5 Reasons Why Porn Made Sex Better (

BDSM and Fetish
Correction (
Fiction or Not, You Tell Me? (
He’s Got the Look (
HNT: Have a nice day! (
A Nawty Story: Kitten Comes Clean (
Retribution (
Sadism and domestic violence (

Sex Advice, News, Reviews & Interviews
Free Shipping for your Holiday Shopping! (
An Herbivores Guide to Safe Sex (
Pillow Talk: Interview with Razor Ryan (
Revolutionary Cybersex (
Threesome Advice (part 1) (video) (

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