A Quickie Sex Tip for the Girls

In light of yesterday’s posting, a quickie post with a tip that I don’t think will work for men, but I know has worked for me and might work for a lot of other women out there, too. But it might work for men who have difficulties coming with their lovers through oral or manual means, and could be worth a try. (I would think a lot of guys would be premature if they tried a stunt like this, though. Just a thought.)
Before you get ready for a date or evening in which you have plans with a lover that you know will culminate in sex, masturbate to the brink of orgasm, then stop. Leave yourself unsatisfied, and you’ll remain in a heightened state of arousal for the rest of the night, until things start happening with your lover. You can bring him into the fun and games by whispering to him now and then at, say, the dinner party you’re at, or in the movies, and letting him know you’re wet for him already — or even produce evidence by guiding his hand up under your skirt. You probably will be wet if you tease yourself in advance.
From my experience, the orgasm is more powerful and, if I’ve clued him in to let him know how bothered I’ve been all night, it tends to have been more animalistic sex. Also, I’ve always behaved a little more mischievously on those occasions, too. It’s good to be bad.

4 thoughts on “A Quickie Sex Tip for the Girls

  1. Bill

    Steff:

    Looks like a great compromise was reached. Now, since my wife is the only woman I’ve been with that seems indifferent to receiving oral sex should I take my own advice and just forget it, or could there be more to the story? The dominance thing with LGB makes sense, but I honestly can’t think of an analogous explanation for us. And, as Data said in Star Trek, Next Gen – “I am fully functional – programmed for pleasure and programmed in multiple techniques”…

  2. figleaf

    Masturbating to the edge and then stopping before a date sounds like a great tip, Steff. Mentioning it to your date is *definitely* a great tip. (It’s way more direct that “I’m not wearing panties,” which shows up in so many how-to lists its approaching cliche status.)

    As for whether it would work for men too I started out thinking it wouldn’t be such a good idea since it might put you on a hair trigger when you finally started having sex. I used to really worry about premature ejaculation so, perhaps ironically, since I also recover quickly I’d usually take the edge off by masturbating to orgasm before going out.)

    Now, though, I think I was probably missing a wonderful opportunity to seethe all night the way you like to. It couldn’t possibly hurt to try it.

    Ok, and one last question from a shy-er than I sound man: would a partner letting you know he’d done that work for you as well as you telling him does?

    As usual I’m so glad you’re here.

    figleaf

  3. scribe called steff

    Bill– Mind telling me what the “in-detail” discussion included? I’m curious what her take on why she’s so indifferent/ambivalent about it… You can email me for some more privacy at my rather facetious addy: steff.thesexpert(at)gmail(dot)com.

    Figleaf — Ah, I’m shyer than I sound, too. đŸ™‚ I’ll think about that. It’s tricky. Sometimes it would work, and sometimes it might backfire. Lemme get back to you.

  4. figleaf

    I was going to ask if disclosure sauce for the gander wasn’t also sauce for the goose, but you answered that you haven’t tried disclosing either.

    I think it might be easier for either of us (and most other people) if we were all less shy about “admitting” masturbation in the first place. But even in relationships we rarely do… so bringing it up — especially early in a relationship — might generate more smoke than heat.

    I still think it’s a neat idea, even if one doesn’t care to admit it.

    figleaf

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