I could spend a decade writing my thoughts on it, but ultimately our genetics draws us to want to have sex, marry and procreate, and we seldom question why. If you were in a nightclub and told the girl dancing provocatively above the crowd that she was actually subconsciously trying to attract a mate for procreation/pairbonding, she’d laugh at you and simply say “she likes to dance.”

At one time marriage was absolutely important for survival, but in this day and age both sexes can make a living just fine on their own. Thus they are tempted to explore once their lover starts becoming their provider and a “newer model” comes along.

Deeper human psychology when it comes to mating and relationships is creepy stuff.

Still single…and frankly, the toss up of being unhappy with someone or happy without one is not even a toss up, not even a question to me. The idea of sharing my living space again, having to check with someone else before making a simple or a life decision is horrific to me. I may sound over dramatic, but this is a convo a girlfriend and I had this weekend. I enjoy my own space too much, enjoy my freedom too much to give that all up again just so I can have someone around. I plan to in future live by the adage “live close by, visit often”.

And living in Canada, not planning on having children ever, marriage is not necessary anymore. I’m agnostic. So church doesn’t even enter into the equation. I don’t think there is a way to “fix” marriage at all…it is what it is and it is something people jump into too lightly because it’s relatively easy to get out of. My province is one that just illustrates this, we have more common law couples than the rest of Canada, and most of this province in Catholic. What does THAT say about christians and marriage?

Oh I could go on forever on the subject. And before anyone suggests that I am bitter because of the dissolution of my marriage, I’m not, it was a transaction entered into when I was too young to make such a decision in life, my ex is a nice guy, but we never should have married. I’ve had relationships since (it’s been a while now), but nothing that I would bend over backwards for. I just like being on my own. Maybe down the line I’ll meet someone that changes my mind, but I’m hesitant to change the status quo because I enjoy it so much.