About Steff
This is my interstellar craft of truth and wit. Buckle up. If you want celebrity gossip, this is not the blog for you. If you want comfortable postings that’ll fill you with happy fuzzy thoughts about the world at large, or self-help guru shit, this is not the blog for you.
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Category Archives: Best of Steff
Jun
03
2010
The Challenge of Transitioning
I’m in zombieland. Mono-focused. I know what I want. I’m after it. Period. Brains. Nommy brains. Mmkay, no. I want life to be my bitch. That requires me being strong, fit, and healthy. It requires me undoing bullshit that caused me to gain back 8 pounds — and probably several inches — of the 70 [...]
Also posted in Autobiographical, Being me, Dimestore Philosophy, Eating Disorder, Hygiene & Health, Journalling, Life 101, Loving and Knowing Yourself, Opinion (Editorial & Commentary), Psychology & Moods, Self-Love & Self-Esteem, Society, Specifically Steff, fitness, keeping it real, slow, weight loss Tagged balance, consequences, finding the zone, getting into the mode, living the life, maintaining success, struggle, the headgame, the price you pay, the weightloss headgame, transition, weightloss, what it takes, what success requires, working out 6 Comments
May
09
2010
The Bucket List Shrinks
On Friday, I spoke at this year’s Northern Voice Blogging Conference at the University of British Columbia. I spoke on a panel Saturday, too, but that’s another story for another time. The conference was great, but I’ll leave the recaps to others. Speaking? Whew. I was fucking terrified of my speaking engagement. Not because I [...]
Also posted in Autobiographical, Being me, Communication, Current Events, Dimestore Philosophy, Journalling, Loving and Knowing Yourself, Opinion (Editorial & Commentary), Self-Love & Self-Esteem, Sex, Society, Specifically Steff, better sex, blogging, keeping it real, writing Tagged being genuine, being vulnerable, being yourself, fear of opening up, fear of talking, fears, northern voice, northern voice 2010, northern voices, northern voices 2010, nv10, opening up, overcoming fear, public speaking, talking, telling the truth, the whole story, truth, ubc, writing 14 Comments
May
06
2010
Add Another Voice to the Fray
For everything I’ve published this week, four have gone into the depths, filed under lock and key, not fit for sharing. Too personal, too exploratory, too unconnected, too any-number-of-things. A lot of what I batted around regards my relationship with sex: Where it’s been, where it went, why it changed, why it matters, what it [...]
Also posted in Communication, Dimestore Philosophy, Gay or Straight?, History, Kink, Life 101, Lifestyle, Loving and Knowing Yourself, Opinion (Editorial & Commentary), Politics, Psychology & Moods, Sex, Society, Specifically Steff, better sex, blogging, freedom, keeping it real, relationships, sexuality, writing Tagged audience, average people, bdsm, Bondage, demographic, freedoms, Kink, Lifestyle, middle of the road, Oral Sex, Politics, preferences, sex blogging, sex trade workers, sex writing, sexual tastes, styles, the sex community, writing about sex 2 Comments
May
04
2010
Ending, Meet Beginning
I’m sitting here in my panties, belting out George Michael songs, as sunlight spills in. I’m absolutely comfortable in my own skin this morning, beaming and grooving. It’s only fitting, then, that this should be the last-ever “Smut and Steff” posting. Yep. Done like dinner, baby. By the time you read this, likely, this will [...]
I had an interesting Twitter debate this morning after someone spoke of a Starbucks kid who screwed his store over by twice not showing up as the “keyholder” to open the shop. The debate came from completely different perspectives — I’m getting on in my 30s, spent 15 years in retail, dreamed of a better day [...]
Also posted in Being me, Dimestore Philosophy, General, Journalling, Life 101, Loving and Knowing Yourself, Opinion (Editorial & Commentary), Psychology & Moods, Self-Love & Self-Esteem, Society, Specifically Steff, keeping it real, slow Tagged angst, blame, blaming, careers, changing your life, failure, frustration, grief, jobs, learning about yourself, life, life choices, quitting your job, ratrace, reconciling your past, rut, should i quit, should you quit, solving your problems, stuck, success, trappings, trials, troubles, unhappiness, when to quit your job 4 Comments
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