About Steff
This is my interstellar craft of truth and wit. Buckle up. If you want celebrity gossip, this is not the blog for you. If you want comfortable postings that’ll fill you with happy fuzzy thoughts about the world at large, or self-help guru shit, this is not the blog for you.
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Category Archives: Dating
Apr
22
2010
Respect Yourself
I’m tired of women who get into a relationship, lose all of themselves in the man, the relationship ends in a matter of weeks, they come apart at the seams, and it’s “Oh, I’ll never love again.” Please. Get serious. And to moan and piss and whine like this publicly, on social media sites? Please. Get serious. [...]
Also posted in Autobiographical, keeping it real, Life 101, Loving and Knowing Yourself, Opinion (Editorial & Commentary), Psychology & Moods, relationships, Self-Love & Self-Esteem, Society, Specifically Steff, Steff Rants, Women's Department Tagged adversity, being strong, being tough, being yourself, co-dependent, desperate, emotional, getting past it, having pride, keeping yourself, losing yourself, lost, lost in a relationship, loving yourself, needy, no self-esteem, overcoming, respect, self-esteem, self-respect, shameful, weak, women 5 Comments
As a so-called sex writer, I went off the reservation a long, long time ago. As a writer, I’m writing a book, and it means revisiting all my work from the last few years. In the process, I’m tagging & categorizing all my posts so you’ll have an easier time to search relevant topics. But, boy, [...]
Also posted in Autobiographical, Dimestore Philosophy, Journalling, keeping it real, Opinion (Editorial & Commentary), Self-Love & Self-Esteem, Sex, sexuality, Specifically Steff, writing Tagged Al Pacino, Any Given Sunday, becoming a better lover, Being single, blogging about sex, Dating, dating again, eroticism, groaning, learning about yourself, learning your sexuality, libido, loud lovers, moaning, noise during sex, philosophy on sex, Sex, sex blogging, sexual journey, sexuality, sharing sexuality, why i write about sex, why writing about sex matters 1 Comment
Apr
14
2010
Oh, You Naughty Librarian!
In college, I was a librarian. I worked both in books and in the audio-visuals section. Then I was a bookseller. Everything I ever needed to learn about sex, I learned on the job. It’s probably the only thing escorts and librarians have in common. Okay, well, no, not everything I ever needed to learn… [...]
Also posted in keeping it real, Orgasm Trouble, Psychology & Moods, Sex, Sex Education, sexuality, Specifically Steff, Twitter Tagged being a good lover, books on sex, Education, how to, information, learning about sex, librarians, naughty librarian, naughty librarians, Sex, sex books, sex information, sex skill, sex tips, sexual knoweledge, sexual power, sexuality Leave a comment
Sep
09
2009
Dating Options 101: Whatchagot
I had too much wine on Saturday night, wrote this. Didn’t publish it for fear I might’ve said too much. In vino veritas and all. So here’s the version you see. :) I’m being antisocial. Again. I’m at that point where people are draining me, so I know I need my time to myself. Some guy’s [...]
Also posted in Humour, Journalling, Romance, Specifically Steff Tagged a weekend alone, boys, casual sex, Dating, dry spells, men, single, whatchagot 2 Comments
I’ve been foiled by the evil estrogenies on my long weekend Monday, and my monthly female visitor is making its presence known. Happily, I’m now medicated. More happily, TiVo ate some Breakfast Club and is serving it up fresh for me this morning — one of those few movies I can recite more than half. [...]
Also posted in Dimestore Philosophy, Education, General, Hollywood, Humour, Life 101, Opinion (Editorial & Commentary), Society, Specifically Steff 1 Comment
The Dishonour of Honour Killings