Category Archives: Oral Sex

Jan
29
2010

RANT: Labels Kill Sexuality

Four years ago I wrote a posting about cheating and in it I had a little rant about being called an “older woman” by the letter-writer when I was only 32. The posting is here, and today I deleted a comment that referred to the rant-within-the-posting with this comment that I’ve chosen to delete for [...]
Also posted in Communication, keeping it real, Lifestyle, Modern Feminism, Opinion (Editorial & Commentary), sexuality, Specifically Steff, Uncategorized | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | 5 Comments
Aug
21
2008

My Reader, Oraless-For-25-Years, is Getting Oral!

So, remember the reader who wrote me a couple weeks back to say that her hubby sucked ass at oral, and had for 25 years? Now, a bunch of guys wrote comments, saying, “Well, maybe it’s not all his fault”, but what I’d neglected to say was that we’d exchanged about a half-dozen emails or [...]
Also posted in Best of Steff, Questions From Readers, Sex | Tagged , , , | 6 Comments
Aug
15
2008

A Frank Posting about Giving Head

I refused to give my “partner” head last weekend. This came as a shock. Having been somewhat drunk on good red wine, I had a good excuse. Truth is, it was an excuse. Somehow, in all my writing, I’ve apparently made it sound like sitting around with a penis in my mouth is about the [...]
Also posted in Best of Steff, casual sex, Dating, Etiquette, Foreplay & Arousing, Men's Department, Modern Feminism, Opinion (Editorial & Commentary), Specifically Steff | Tagged , , , , , , | 7 Comments
Aug
14
2008

The Day-After Blogging Shame

You know, this whole recovering-Catholic thing plays so badly with writing any kind of exposés about my own sex life. I feel horribly guilty, like a first-class cunt, for having posted my thingie about my “underwhelming weekend sex” yesterday. But then I got to thinking about it. First, I placed an ad for sex. I made it [...]
Also posted in Best of Steff, casual sex, Dating, Men's Department, Opinion (Editorial & Commentary), Sex, Specifically Steff, Steff Rants | Tagged , , , , | 9 Comments
Aug
03
2008

Reader Says:He’s Hated Giving Me Oral for 25 Years

Oh, dear, oh, dear. Ohh. Sigh. So here’s a letter I received today– We’ve been married 25 years, intercourse has always been great. Hubby has never learned to be good with his hands but orally he’s a dunce. I gave up many years ago. I have dropped 60 lbs and my libido went up, so has [...]
Also posted in Advice, Best of Steff, Marriage & Other Commitments, Questions From Readers, Sex, sugasm, Women's Department | Tagged , , | 7 Comments
Jun
19
2008

On Oral, A Reader Asks: Can I Really Tease Her For More Than An Hour?

some days are clean slates, just waiting for some input, a spark, a suggestion. some days are lazy days of slack, and on such a day, it’s nice to receive a great email from a snazzy reader, especially when it’s something worth spending a little time writing on. if you have something you think i [...]
Also posted in Advice, Best of Steff, Foreplay & Arousing, Gay or Straight?, How To Guides, Men's Department, Questions From Readers, Sex, Women's Department | Tagged , , , , , | 5 Comments

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