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This is my interstellar craft of truth and wit. Buckle up. If you want celebrity gossip, this is not the blog for you. If you want comfortable postings that’ll fill you with happy fuzzy thoughts about the world at large, or self-help guru shit, this is not the blog for you.
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Category Archives: sexuality
May
06
2010
Add Another Voice to the Fray
For everything I’ve published this week, four have gone into the depths, filed under lock and key, not fit for sharing. Too personal, too exploratory, too unconnected, too any-number-of-things. A lot of what I batted around regards my relationship with sex: Where it’s been, where it went, why it changed, why it matters, what it [...]
Also posted in Best of Steff, better sex, blogging, Communication, Dimestore Philosophy, freedom, Gay or Straight?, History, keeping it real, Kink, Life 101, Lifestyle, Loving and Knowing Yourself, Opinion (Editorial & Commentary), Politics, Psychology & Moods, relationships, Sex, Society, Specifically Steff, writing Tagged audience, average people, bdsm, Bondage, demographic, freedoms, Kink, Lifestyle, middle of the road, Oral Sex, Politics, preferences, sex blogging, sex trade workers, sex writing, sexual tastes, styles, the sex community, writing about sex 2 Comments
As a so-called sex writer, I went off the reservation a long, long time ago. As a writer, I’m writing a book, and it means revisiting all my work from the last few years. In the process, I’m tagging & categorizing all my posts so you’ll have an easier time to search relevant topics. But, boy, [...]
Also posted in Autobiographical, Dating, Dimestore Philosophy, Journalling, keeping it real, Opinion (Editorial & Commentary), Self-Love & Self-Esteem, Sex, Specifically Steff, writing Tagged Al Pacino, Any Given Sunday, becoming a better lover, Being single, blogging about sex, Dating, dating again, eroticism, groaning, learning about yourself, learning your sexuality, libido, loud lovers, moaning, noise during sex, philosophy on sex, Sex, sex blogging, sexual journey, sexuality, sharing sexuality, why i write about sex, why writing about sex matters 1 Comment
Apr
14
2010
Oh, You Naughty Librarian!
In college, I was a librarian. I worked both in books and in the audio-visuals section. Then I was a bookseller. Everything I ever needed to learn about sex, I learned on the job. It’s probably the only thing escorts and librarians have in common. Okay, well, no, not everything I ever needed to learn… [...]
Also posted in Dating, keeping it real, Orgasm Trouble, Psychology & Moods, Sex, Sex Education, Specifically Steff, Twitter Tagged being a good lover, books on sex, Education, how to, information, learning about sex, librarians, naughty librarian, naughty librarians, Sex, sex books, sex information, sex skill, sex tips, sexual knoweledge, sexual power, sexuality Leave a comment
Jan
29
2010
RANT: Labels Kill Sexuality
Four years ago I wrote a posting about cheating and in it I had a little rant about being called an “older woman” by the letter-writer when I was only 32. The posting is here, and today I deleted a comment that referred to the rant-within-the-posting with this comment that I’ve chosen to delete for [...]
Also posted in Communication, keeping it real, Lifestyle, Modern Feminism, Opinion (Editorial & Commentary), Oral Sex, Specifically Steff, Uncategorized Tagged ageism, asshats, cougars, double standards, Ethics, hang-ups, hypocrisy, judgment, labels, morality, old-fashioned, overt, physicality, sexuality, slutty, Society, stupidity 5 Comments
The Dishonour of Honour Killings