Tag Archives: Bondage

Add Another Voice to the Fray

For everything I’ve published this week, four have gone into the depths, filed under lock and key, not fit for sharing. Too personal, too exploratory, too unconnected, too any-number-of-things. A lot of what I batted around regards my relationship with sex: Where it’s been, where it went, why it changed, why it matters, what it […]
Posted in Best of Steff, better sex, blogging, Communication, Dimestore Philosophy, freedom, Gay or Straight?, History, keeping it real, Kink, Life 101, Lifestyle, Loving and Knowing Yourself, Opinion (Editorial & Commentary), Politics, Psychology & Moods, relationships, Sex, sexuality, Society, Specifically Steff, writing | Also tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | 2 Comments

Should I Stay or Should I Go Now?

I had an end-of-the-night chat on Twitter with my friend Tris Hussey (@TrisHussey), one of Vancouver’s best WP blogging smartie-pants, about the strange life of being a vanilla girl in a sex-blogger-world. It’s had me thinking since, which is why I like smartie-pants like Tris. See, he thinks the world needs more sex-positive voices — especially […]
Posted in Autobiographical, Being me, Best of Steff, better sex, Communication, Dimestore Philosophy, freedom, Hollywood, keeping it real, Kink, Life 101, Lifestyle, Modern Feminism, Opinion (Editorial & Commentary), Psychology & Moods, Religion, Self-Love & Self-Esteem, Sex, Sex Education, sexuality, Society, Steff Rants, writing | Also tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | 6 Comments

When We Were Kids: Thoughts on BDSM

Experts will tell you that who we are in life is defined by the age of seven. Our ethics, our play, our work habits, it’s all laid out as part of who we are, and will continue to be, by seven. There are those who’ve taken this a step further and will tell you also that […]
Posted in Best of Steff, Dating, Foreplay & Arousing, Opinion (Editorial & Commentary), Psychology & Moods, Sex, Society | Also tagged , , , , | 10 Comments

Whip Me, Beat Me, Slap Me – Just Don’t Judge Me

While all the good little people were out getting in touch with their god of choice, I was having a lovely Sunday morning watching a BDSM fairytale, Secretary. I’ve been meaning to see Secretary since its release in 2002, as I’ve been a lifelong fan of James Spader ever since I loved hating him in […]
Posted in Being me, Best of Steff, better sex, Bondage, Dimestore Philosophy, Ethics, fantasies, Foreplay & Arousing, freedom, keeping it real, Kink, Laws, Lifestyle, MacGyvery Sex Aids & Props, Marriage & Other Commitments, Men's Department, Modern Feminism, Opinion (Editorial & Commentary), Politics, relationships, Self-Love & Self-Esteem, Sex, sexuality, Society, Specifically Steff, Steff Rants, Uncategorized, Women's Department | Also tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | 15 Comments

Bondage for Beginners: Part Two, Basic Guidelines

(I forgot to include the link to part one, which is here.) Bondage can become part of your life for a lot of reasons. Sometimes, it’s a way for folks to deal with the anxiety of their lives; symbolically giving control to another, or taking control. Sometimes, it’s for less honourable reasons. Sometimes, it’s just another […]
Posted in Advice, Best of Steff, better sex, Bondage, fantasies, Foreplay & Arousing, Games, How To Guides, Kink, Lifestyle, MacGyvery Sex Aids & Props, Men's Department, Opinion (Editorial & Commentary), Psychology & Moods, Sex, sex tips, Sex Toys & Aids, sexuality, Women's Department | Also tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | 9 Comments

Bondage for Beginners, Part One: What You Need

I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again, bondage is something everyone should experience. Too often, things like bondage or use of sex toys or whatever are all obscured by a perception that they’re made for people who REALLY are into sex as a lifestyle. Not so. But even if it were so, what’s so […]
Posted in Advice, Battle of the Comments, Best of Steff, better sex, Bondage, Ethics, Foreplay & Arousing, Games, How To Guides, Kink, Lifestyle, MacGyvery Sex Aids & Props, Men's Department, Opinion (Editorial & Commentary), Psychology & Moods, Questions From Readers, relationships, Sex, sex tips, Sex Toys & Aids, Society, Women's Department | Also tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | 34 Comments
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