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Tag Archives: Dating
Sep
09
2009
Dating Options 101: Whatchagot
I had too much wine on Saturday night, wrote this. Didn’t publish it for fear I might’ve said too much. In vino veritas and all. So here’s the version you see. :) I’m being antisocial. Again. I’m at that point where people are draining me, so I know I need my time to myself. Some guy’s [...]
Posted in Dating, Humour, Journalling, Romance, Specifically Steff Also tagged a weekend alone, boys, casual sex, dry spells, men, single, whatchagot 2 Comments
Mar
23
2009
When Waiting Can Be Worth It
The trouble with being a fast-food nation is that it’s become the norm to want what you want the way you want it, when you want it. We’re led to believe that every single day is so important — which is why we need the iPhone, the laptop, the netbook, the fast car, the microwave — [...]
Posted in Dating, Opinion (Editorial & Commentary), Psychology & Moods, Society, Specifically Steff Also tagged delay of game, opportunities, Romance, timing, waiting, worth it 1 Comment
Mar
14
2009
My Own Private Dichotomy
Fear is not my friend. I don’t care what the bookstore’s self-help section says. Fear is a bitch. A mean, driven bitch. I am not a fan of fear. I bought that book. Twice. Feel The Fear and Do It Anyways. Sometimes I do it anyways. But I always feel the fear. Ever-present, always-niggling fear. Fortunately [...]
Posted in Being single, Dating, Dimestore Philosophy, Journalling, Loving and Knowing Yourself, Modern Feminism, Opinion (Editorial & Commentary), Self-Love & Self-Esteem, Sex, Specifically Steff, weight loss Also tagged ambivalence, answers, change, fear, feminism, fucking up, growth, making right, mistakes, moving on, questions, self 2 Comments
Mar
12
2009
Arousing — Er, Awaking the Beast
I’m at my breaking point, I suspect. My resolve isn’t very resolved anymore. I have this incredibly awesome gift most people would KILL for. When I’m not sexually involved, I can flip my libido off like a lightswitch. It’s why I’m so content to not date. Because dating just toys with my resolve. Once I’m [...]
Posted in Being single, Dating, Foreplay & Arousing, Humour, Hygiene & Health, Romance, Sex, Specifically Steff Also tagged awakening, celibacy, desire, libido, Sex, spring, starting relationships, taking chances 4 Comments
Mar
03
2009
Are You Askin’ Or Tellin’?
I had a private chat with chick on Twitter recently, and we spoke of men who’ve made rather over-the-top “requests” before first meetings with us. Well, with her. I’ve never actually followed through with plans with any of those guys. But that’s how I roll. My Spidey senses are on the job 24/7. I’ve been “dating” for [...]
Posted in Advice, Dating, General, Lifestyle, Opinion (Editorial & Commentary), Psychology & Moods, Sex, Specifically Steff Also tagged demands, fear, fetishes, fuck buddies, fwb, instinct, play, safety, Sex, strictly sex 3 Comments
On Becoming a Sometimes-Sex-Blogger Again