The sky is blue. This I know.
I can be told once in my life that the sky is blue, and I need not be reminded. I may have had three concussions and had bleeding on my brain, but Iâm sufficiently clued in enough to be able to recall the blueness of that great big yonder up there. Itâs there, itâs bigger than life, and itâs unavoidable.
What Iâm not smart enough to remember, however, is just how spiffy I am.
You see, I have these alien invaders in my body that will never, ever go away. Theyâre from planet Estrogen, and, man, as far as aliens go, theyâre a right bitch sometimes.
Unfortunately, there is an entire world filled with people of my ilk who have been invaded by these cosmic cunts, and weâre known as Women. These âEstrogeniesâ do things to us that weâre not that crazy about. They make us insecure, make us moody, and make us sometimes a little inconsistent. Fortunately, they also make our boobs swell once a month. Itâs a give-and-take thing, really.
Guys are pretty low-key. We like that about you. We like the fact that we know we can make you a sandwich, kiss your neck, give you a beer, and you feel like youâre the king of the jungle. Easy-peasy.
We, however, communicate more than you. You, obviously, communicate less. And youâre deceptive. You like to think youâre simple. âI am man. I grunt, therefore I am.â But youâre complicated. You get moody, you get silent, and you internalize. Itâs what men do. We understand this.
What we canât process, though, is the price it sometimes comes at. Men close themselves off, and then by so doing, they also forget to communicate with us about the little things that help to keep relationships moving nice and happy-like.
âYou look nice today.â
âHave I told you lately how much you rock?â
We wish we didnât need to be told that everythingâs well and good and weâre still cared about and we still do all the things to you that we did way back when, but we do need to hear these things. And frankly, you need to hear them from us, too. Everyone does.
Compliments and expressions of affection are like yogurt. They have a shelf-life, and while they keep a little longer than you might think, but when they go, man, they go. And then the weird comes down. Insecurities rise, distance ensues, and things get complicated. Relationship mold. Ew.
Itâs lame, but it happens. It doesnât take much to get out of your head sometimes and just remember to say good things about your partner. Keep them secure about how theyâre valued, even when youâve got things going on otherwise. We all get a little too internal, and itâs just not fair to our lovers if weâre all self-involved and failing to acknowledge their worth to us from time to time.
Itâs really easy to forget to be communicative about these things when your sex life is going, but at least then you have a physical expression of that affection, and sometimes things can be left unsaid. If youâre not getting physical often, then itâs really important to at least have the communication working, right? Pretty obvious there. 2 + 2 = 4, yeah?
Itâd be wonderful if we only had to be told once in our lives that weâre loved, but it doesnât work that way. The more it happens, the more real it becomes to us. Fleeting suggestions of affection really donât leave deep imprints on us, and frankly, they often donât even make a dent. Even worse is, if weâre told how great we are over a period of time, and then time lapses where it ceases to happen much at all anymore, then thereâs even greater reason to become insecure.
Put your money where your mouth is, people, and tell âem that you dig âem. Tell âem often, tell âem good. If you donât, you never know, you might just lose what you have, and thatâd be a crying shame. Especially if the feelings existed, but your communication simply lacked. The price we pay for these oversights is far too high.
(And, hey, watch out for the Estrogenies, eh?)
