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Tag Archives: grief
Aug
12
2010
A Stitch in Time
I sold a sewing machine last night, for far less than I’d wanted to, and found myself ever so emotional after the fact. I remember the day my mother bought that 1917 Singer (Model 027) oak-cabinet sewing machine, some 30 years ago. We’d had a yard sale, with my parents constantly on their “reduce the clutter [...]
Posted in Autobiographical, Dimestore Philosophy, Journalling, keeping it real, Modern Feminism, Opinion (Editorial & Commentary), Psychology & Moods, Specifically Steff Also tagged changing life, dead mother, death, epiphanies, gaining wisdom, getting wiser, growing up, life, middle ages, mourning, parents 6 Comments
I had an interesting Twitter debate this morning after someone spoke of a Starbucks kid who screwed his store over by twice not showing up as the “keyholder” to open the shop. The debate came from completely different perspectives — I’m getting on in my 30s, spent 15 years in retail, dreamed of a better day [...]
Posted in Being me, Best of Steff, Dimestore Philosophy, General, Journalling, keeping it real, Life 101, Loving and Knowing Yourself, Opinion (Editorial & Commentary), Psychology & Moods, Self-Love & Self-Esteem, slow, Society, Specifically Steff Also tagged angst, blame, blaming, careers, changing your life, failure, frustration, jobs, learning about yourself, life, life choices, quitting your job, ratrace, reconciling your past, rut, should i quit, should you quit, solving your problems, stuck, success, trappings, trials, troubles, unhappiness, when to quit your job 4 Comments
Sep
11
2006
So, Here We Are Again
The whole 9/11 thing is feeling weird. Reminds me of when five years had passed since my mother’s death. Has it really been so long? Boy, was that all it was? Five years? Grief gets weird when you live with it for a long time and then — poof — it just vanishes, like. Guilt can [...]
Posted in Autobiographical, Being me, Crime, Current Events, General, History, keeping it real, Opinion (Editorial & Commentary), Politics, Society, Specifically Steff, writing Also tagged 5 years, 5th anniversary, 9/11, after 9/11, change, loss of innocence, memory, new york, nyc, pentagon, remembering, remembering 9/11, retrospective, terrorism, twin towers, when 9/11 happened, when everything changed, where i was, world trade centre Leave a comment
Aug
06
2006
Stumbling Through Sunday
Do you ever have those days when something hits you and you begin to think that, this day, for whatever reason, will come to be an important one in some grand scheme of things? I’m having one of those days. I feel like it’s a day on which my mindset’s going to shift in a [...]
Posted in Autobiographical, Being me, Journalling, Specifically Steff, writing Also tagged analyzing life, anniversaries, dead mom, dead mother, Journalling, looking at your life, memorializing, memories, mourning, moving on, pondering, remembering, sadness, taking a moment, taking stock, thinking, thinking it out 1 Comment
Jul
06
2006
How Much Trouble’s Too Much?
Oy vey. Here’s a doozy. The short of this reader’s question is: “How much trouble is one guy worth?” The long of the question is, she’s your typical non-religious “Christian” whose religious extent is the putting up of a Christmas tree. It doesn’t matter much to her at all. She’s educated, though, and knows a little [...]
Posted in Advice, Battle of the Comments, Best of Steff, Communication, Dating, keeping it real, Lifestyle, Marriage & Other Commitments, Opinion (Editorial & Commentary), Politics, Psychology & Moods, Questions From Readers, relationships, Religion, Romance, Society, Uncategorized Also tagged adopting a new religion, changing for him, choice, converting, creeds, different beliefs, faith, Lifestyle, love between religions, men, Religion, trouble, waiting, whether to convert 7 Comments
An Open Letter To My Mother