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Tag Archives: Kink
Jul
21
2006
Beginner’s Fun with Role Play
In Cronenberg’s A History of Violence, we’re given a great beginner’s demonstration of how to perform low-stress, low-prep role playing games. In that scene, Viggo Mortensen’s character is seduced by his wife, who says, “We never got to be teenagers together… I’m going to fix that.” She abandons him in the bedroom for an uncomfortable length [...]
Posted in Advice, better sex, Foreplay & Arousing, Games, How To Guides, Kink, Lifestyle, Men's Department, relationships, Sex, sex tips, Sex Toys & Aids, Women's Department | Also tagged dressing up, playing, role play, role playing, roleplay, toying, what not to do, what to do | 3 Comments
While all the good little people were out getting in touch with their god of choice, I was having a lovely Sunday morning watching a BDSM fairytale, Secretary. I’ve been meaning to see Secretary since its release in 2002, as I’ve been a lifelong fan of James Spader ever since I loved hating him in [...]
Posted in Being me, Best of Steff, better sex, Bondage, Dimestore Philosophy, Ethics, fantasies, Foreplay & Arousing, freedom, keeping it real, Kink, Laws, Lifestyle, MacGyvery Sex Aids & Props, Marriage & Other Commitments, Men's Department, Modern Feminism, Opinion (Editorial & Commentary), Politics, relationships, Self-Love & Self-Esteem, Sex, sexuality, Society, Specifically Steff, Steff Rants, Uncategorized, Women's Department | Also tagged bdsm, beliefs, Bondage, choices, dominance, Games, hangups, Hollywood, issues, james spader, Lifestyle, movies, perceptions, personal choices, personal needs, perspective, playing, pretty in pink, restraints, roleplay, s&m, screenplays, scripts, secretary, Sex, sexuality, spanking, submission, tastes | 15 Comments
(I forgot to include the link to part one, which is here.) Bondage can become part of your life for a lot of reasons. Sometimes, it’s a way for folks to deal with the anxiety of their lives; symbolically giving control to another, or taking control. Sometimes, it’s for less honourable reasons. Sometimes, it’s just another [...]
Posted in Advice, Best of Steff, better sex, Bondage, fantasies, Foreplay & Arousing, Games, How To Guides, Kink, Lifestyle, MacGyvery Sex Aids & Props, Men's Department, Opinion (Editorial & Commentary), Psychology & Moods, Sex, sex tips, Sex Toys & Aids, sexuality, Women's Department | Also tagged basics, binds, Bondage, bondage for beginners, for beginners, Games, getting tied up, harnesses, how to do bondage, introduction, kinky, learning bondage, leather, playing, restraints, ropes, safety, Sex, sex games, straps, techniques, ties, tips, tying her up, tying him up, what not to do, what to do | 9 Comments
I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again, bondage is something everyone should experience. Too often, things like bondage or use of sex toys or whatever are all obscured by a perception that they’re made for people who REALLY are into sex as a lifestyle. Not so. But even if it were so, what’s so [...]
Posted in Advice, Battle of the Comments, Best of Steff, better sex, Bondage, Ethics, Foreplay & Arousing, Games, How To Guides, Kink, Lifestyle, MacGyvery Sex Aids & Props, Men's Department, Opinion (Editorial & Commentary), Psychology & Moods, Questions From Readers, relationships, Sex, sex tips, Sex Toys & Aids, Society, Women's Department | Also tagged basics, binds, Bondage, bondage for beginners, for beginners, Games, getting tied up, harnesses, how to do bondage, introduction, kinky, learning bondage, leather, playing, restraints, ropes, safety, Sex, sex games, straps, techniques, ties, tips, tying her up, tying him up, what not to do, what to do | 34 Comments
I stirred up a little controversy with this posting the other day when I said most women didn’t like porn sex. C’mon, a girl can have some fun, n’est ce pas? I love aggressive sex. I love a mix. I come with my own multi-speed. I can’t do the same thing all the time, and [...]
Posted in Advice, Battle of the Comments, Best of Steff, better sex, Bondage, casual sex, Ethics, fantasies, Foreplay & Arousing, Games, How To Guides, keeping it real, Kink, Lifestyle, Men's Department, Modern Feminism, Opinion (Editorial & Commentary), relationships, Sex, sexuality, Society, Women's Department | Also tagged after sex, after the relationship, Bondage, consenting adults, exploring sex, how to behave, keeping confidences, right to privacy, rules of the bedroom, sexual ethics, sexuality, vegas, what not to do | 4 Comments
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