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Tag Archives: listening
Apr
09
2006
The Fantasy Business
The guy is asleep, about four feet to my left. He looks so different when he’s sleeping. We were talking the other night and I told him I would have to start getting up before him for awhile on weekends, so I could write, as it’s really important to me. He understood, naturally, and began [...]
Posted in Advice, Best of Steff, better sex, Communication, dysfunction, Etiquette, fantasies, Foreplay & Arousing, Kink, Marriage & Other Commitments, Men's Department, Opinion (Editorial & Commentary), Psychology & Moods, relationships, Romance, Sex, sex tips, sexuality, Society, Steff Rants, Women's Department | Also tagged being honest, being kind, being mean, being open, fantasies, how to be a jerk, how to listen, letting them talk, not judging, obligations, opening up, openminded, Sex, sharing what's real, what not to do, what you owe them, what's right | 6 Comments
Mar
30
2006
The Relationship Ride
When I was a little girl, I liked the “nice” rides at amusement parks. The Tilt-a-Whirl was a favourite. There’d be those moments when you’d spin wildly and you’d verge on nausea, and then it’d slow on down, and you’d settle back into an easy pace. It was unpredictable, but never dangerous, and never scary. [...]
Posted in Being me, Best of Steff, Communication, Dating, keeping it real, Life 101, Men's Department, Modern Feminism, Opinion (Editorial & Commentary), Psychology & Moods, relationships, Romance, sexuality, Specifically Steff | Also tagged adapting, being a good partner, being there, being vulnerable, big changes, committing, Dating, falling for someone, getting comfortable, insecurities, learning about someone, new relationships, opening up, questions, relationships, sharing vulnerabilities, speaking up, understanding | 14 Comments
Lousy Lover Syndrome