About Steff
This is my interstellar craft of truth and wit. Buckle up. If you want celebrity gossip, this is not the blog for you. If you want comfortable postings that’ll fill you with happy fuzzy thoughts about the world at large, or self-help guru shit, this is not the blog for you.
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Tag Archives: Sex
May
14
2010
The Fear of Moving On
One of my guiltiest pleasures is my addiction to the CBS series The Mentalist. I’ve had a girlie crush on Simon Baker for 20 years, and there’s something about a smart, cynical, fun-loving, light-hearted genius crimesolver that taps into my childhood passion for Encyclopedia Brown and the Hardy Boys. (We’ll get you yet, Bugs Meany.) [...]
Posted in Autobiographical, Being me, blogging, Crime, Dimestore Philosophy, Journalling, keeping it real, Life 101, Opinion (Editorial & Commentary), Psychology & Moods, Self-Love & Self-Esteem, Society, Specifically Steff, Twitter, writing Also tagged becoming public, big changes, changing, changing your life, coming out, going public, living out loud, making your move, moving on, mysteries, sex blogging, speaking up, stepping up, writing Leave a comment
As a so-called sex writer, I went off the reservation a long, long time ago. As a writer, I’m writing a book, and it means revisiting all my work from the last few years. In the process, I’m tagging & categorizing all my posts so you’ll have an easier time to search relevant topics. But, boy, [...]
Posted in Autobiographical, Dating, Dimestore Philosophy, Journalling, keeping it real, Opinion (Editorial & Commentary), Self-Love & Self-Esteem, Sex, sexuality, Specifically Steff, writing Also tagged Al Pacino, Any Given Sunday, becoming a better lover, Being single, blogging about sex, Dating, dating again, eroticism, groaning, learning about yourself, learning your sexuality, libido, loud lovers, moaning, noise during sex, philosophy on sex, sex blogging, sexual journey, sexuality, sharing sexuality, why i write about sex, why writing about sex matters 1 Comment
Apr
14
2010
Oh, You Naughty Librarian!
In college, I was a librarian. I worked both in books and in the audio-visuals section. Then I was a bookseller. Everything I ever needed to learn about sex, I learned on the job. It’s probably the only thing escorts and librarians have in common. Okay, well, no, not everything I ever needed to learn… [...]
Posted in Dating, keeping it real, Orgasm Trouble, Psychology & Moods, Sex, Sex Education, sexuality, Specifically Steff, Twitter Also tagged being a good lover, books on sex, Education, how to, information, learning about sex, librarians, naughty librarian, naughty librarians, sex books, sex information, sex skill, sex tips, sexual knoweledge, sexual power, sexuality Leave a comment
Feb
09
2010
Valentine’s Day: All My Thoughts
Valentine’s day looms and I’ve deftly avoided the topic by not posting new stuff lately. Brilliant! But I guess it’s time for my annual rant against the Big Machine and the perpetuation of the belief that, hey, if it’s love, it’s worth going broke for. I know men buy gifts because they feel obligated. I know [...]
Posted in Dimestore Philosophy, keeping it real, Opinion (Editorial & Commentary), Society, Steff Rants Also tagged Advice, brainwashing, Consumerism, get over it, lemmings, love, relationships, seriously, valentine's, valentine's day 2 Comments
Having a Blog vs. Using It: Some Thoughts