About Steff
This is my interstellar craft of truth and wit. Buckle up. If you want celebrity gossip, this is not the blog for you. If you want comfortable postings that’ll fill you with happy fuzzy thoughts about the world at large, or self-help guru shit, this is not the blog for you.
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Tag Archives: sexuality
As a so-called sex writer, I went off the reservation a long, long time ago. As a writer, I’m writing a book, and it means revisiting all my work from the last few years. In the process, I’m tagging & categorizing all my posts so you’ll have an easier time to search relevant topics. But, boy, [...]
Posted in Autobiographical, Dating, Dimestore Philosophy, Journalling, keeping it real, Opinion (Editorial & Commentary), Self-Love & Self-Esteem, Sex, sexuality, Specifically Steff, writing Also tagged Al Pacino, Any Given Sunday, becoming a better lover, Being single, blogging about sex, Dating, dating again, eroticism, groaning, learning about yourself, learning your sexuality, libido, loud lovers, moaning, noise during sex, philosophy on sex, Sex, sex blogging, sexual journey, sharing sexuality, why i write about sex, why writing about sex matters 1 Comment
Apr
14
2010
Oh, You Naughty Librarian!
In college, I was a librarian. I worked both in books and in the audio-visuals section. Then I was a bookseller. Everything I ever needed to learn about sex, I learned on the job. It’s probably the only thing escorts and librarians have in common. Okay, well, no, not everything I ever needed to learn… [...]
Posted in Dating, keeping it real, Orgasm Trouble, Psychology & Moods, Sex, Sex Education, sexuality, Specifically Steff, Twitter Also tagged being a good lover, books on sex, Education, how to, information, learning about sex, librarians, naughty librarian, naughty librarians, Sex, sex books, sex information, sex skill, sex tips, sexual knoweledge, sexual power Leave a comment
Jan
29
2010
RANT: Labels Kill Sexuality
Four years ago I wrote a posting about cheating and in it I had a little rant about being called an “older woman” by the letter-writer when I was only 32. The posting is here, and today I deleted a comment that referred to the rant-within-the-posting with this comment that I’ve chosen to delete for [...]
Posted in Communication, keeping it real, Lifestyle, Modern Feminism, Opinion (Editorial & Commentary), Oral Sex, sexuality, Specifically Steff, Uncategorized Also tagged ageism, asshats, cougars, double standards, Ethics, hang-ups, hypocrisy, judgment, labels, morality, old-fashioned, overt, physicality, slutty, Society, stupidity 5 Comments
A reader, Dp, just happened to ask me to maybe touch on the difference between a person’s sexuality and the person. He and I sort of look at the equation differently, I suppose, but it’s something I’ve been considering a lot. I’ve placed a sexual encounters personal of late, trying to find that elusive friends-with-benefit situation [...]
I’m interviewing at an ad agency or two tomorrow. No, I won’t be doing any of the ad copy work or anything, more of a save-the-sanity support office worker, since I excel at that. But advertising is something I’ve always been very, very interested in. Remember the movie Crazy People, from years back? Daryll Hannah [...]
Posted in Battle of the Comments, Being me, Best of Steff, Dimestore Philosophy, Education, feminism, Hollywood, Humour, keeping it real, Modern Feminism, Opinion (Editorial & Commentary), Sexism, sexuality, Society, Steff Rants, Women's Department Also tagged advertising, boycott, dated, dr. scholls, feminism, insulting, media, mentality, misogyny, morons, old-fashioned, Sexism, Society, stereotypes, stupidity, the modern woman, women, women today 10 Comments
Should I Stay or Should I Go Now?