The Good Girl's Guide to Giving GREAT Head Pt. 2


When we last left off, I was recapping the wonders of the Creamsicle move. Trusty, classic, and effective. Here are the remaining fave moves of mine. Of course, you can mix’n’match all the moves and shake them up, and you can think outside the box and bring in other techniques. There’s really only one no-no in oral — don’t hurt ’em (unless they’re into that).
So, without further ado, the rest of the Good Girl’s Guide to Giving Great Head.


Sideways: Wrap your lips around his shaft sideways. If you don’t have an image as to how this works, then try sucking on the side of your thumb. Your lips sit on the top and bottom of the cock, and with your lips tucked around your teeth, you’re going to use jaw pressure to clamp up and down on his cock (firm, but not too hard, so check with your man during the process if it’s not obvious how he’s responding) while you travel outward to the tip, all the while sucking and tonguing him.

Now’s a good time to mention it. Tongues, the most wonderful muscle both sexes share. That’s right, it’s a muscle. Flex it, baby. The more you use it, the stronger it’ll be. It can contribute a lot to a guy’s oral experience, too, expecially when you’re throwing added pressure and sensations into the mix. Be conscious of your tongue and its abilities, and you’ll see results.

Ballsy, Baby: Now and then you have to take his balls in your mouth and tongue them against your palate, being careful with your teeth. Suck and slurp the bad boys, and you’ll get him groaning, especially if you’re tugging on his shaft simultaneously.
Super-Thighs Him: Often, and I mean often, fall away to his inner thighs and bite, nibble, suck, and lick him as your hands keep him entertained, rubbing his prostate, stroking him, or maybe even just clutching his ass hard or teasing it with a finger as you continue devouring everything but his cock.
The Moist Interlude: Now and then to really torture him you can mount him without letting him enter you, just in between all the oral escapades. This is particularly fun when you have him absolutely at your mercy and tied up. The trick is, you have to be wet for him. Quite. Sopping. If you’re doing all of this the right way and you’re watching his reactions, I guarantee you will be, but if necessary, as you’re sucking his cock, start rubbing your clit — make sure you tell him that it has you so hot you’ve got to touch yourself — and then mount him after you’re wet. Grind him gently as you lean in and nibble his neck, his earlobes, his nipples, or kiss him, whatever it is you know gets him hotter. And grind, baby, grind. Just a little.
Apres Moist: Having taunted him, you want to slide your body down his, remembering that you’re wet and while you may or may not enjoy having cum all over you, he almost certainly does since your wetness correlates, in his mind, with how much you want to fuck him. So, as you’re sliding down, so too will evidence of your arousal, how hot you’re getting just while getting him hot. This alone will get his mind into overdrive (especially if he’s blindfolded) never mind the fact that you’re licking, nibbling, and sucking your way down to his cock, which you’re now stroking hard but slow. If you’re really evil, you’ll “accidentally” get his cock hung up on your vagina as you’re sliding down him. Stay there and try to drive him a little harder against you before you dismount, and if you’ve done this, make him wait an agonizing moment as you don’t touch him at all (on purpose, but you don’t have to let him know that — but I would, since I love the tease) as you reposition yourself to resume the oral.
The Taste-Tester: I’ve often dribbled chocolate syrup over a blindfolded lover’s cock and then hungrily licked and sucked it off as messily and greedily as I could before kissing him hard on his mouth with my mouth still tasting of both chocolate and him, so he knows what I’ve done. I’ve had amazing results with this, particularly when in the middle of an epic BJ. It’s one of those intense interludes that immediately heightens, rather than slackens his pleasure. It also gives you a change of pace and a nice taste sensation, plus the sugar rush helps you carry on your epic work. Now, honey works well, too, so long as it’s something you gotta work to get it all off of him, though. Sticky and sweet. Even jelly or jam is interesting, if that’s your kinda thing. The shock of cold might cause him to recoil a little, but your mouth will warm him up and make him grow again.

Props Assignment

A feather, an ice cube, some velvet, a dangling tassle, and other fun little objects can go a long way to surprising him with delight when he’s blindfolded during a BJ. I once had an interesting time wrapping a sheet of cotton batting around a guy’s cock and just lightly dragged it up and down against his rigid shaft. He was blindfolded and absolutely baffled as to what I was doing, but began shuddering with each light surfacing drag of the batting. Use your imagination when you’re looking through cupboards, make a note of things that could play well in the bedroom (or wherever you like to fuck.)
Tease him often with the props between doses of oral delivery.
Don’t forget, any time he might deflate a little, you’re going to ensure you reverse that immediately. Keep him as hard as you can throughout.


Remember, variety, no one thing for too long. Go from one technique to another and back again repeatedly, and see what that does. Then change up the mix to something completely different — and change speeds, from slow to fast, and pressures, from soft to hard to barely there.
There are a myriad of other little techniques one can use, given that every cock-owner has different fondnesses. Ask him what he loves during oral. Ask him if there’s anything you can do to make him find a happier place. And do that for him. Asking “Do you like that, baby?” can be as much of a turn-on as anything, especially when you really get to the truth of what’s exciting him.

Whew! A Breather?

Never forget the power of your breath. Tired? Of course you are. Oral’s hard work. Take a breather, literally. Hover over his cock, still holding the shaft firmly, and just breathe heavily on his wet, hard tip and shaft as you catch your breath. I’ve actually seen cocks get harder and longer by just breathing on them for a full minute. Gasp, let him see how worn-out you are from servicing him..
Most of the time, this will even bring an added emotional element into the equation when he knows you’re shoring up reserves to go at him again. It’s a strangely powerful moment, just being there, quietly hovering, breathing.
In my experience, how it plays out is that he knows my head is right there… so close, yet so far, and the anticipation is surprisingly powerful — for both he and I. I’ll often faintly trace a fingernail up his length as I tease him with my breath, and it’s astonishingly effective considering the lack of other stimulus.
(Boys, this has worked well on me, too, but I can’t speak for all women. Girls?)

Sticking points.

A lot of fuss gets made over swallowing or facials or what have you. Where do I stand? I have swallowed, and though I’ve often done it, not always, and not even usually. It depends on the taste of his cum and depends on the man in question. Some guys it’s not a problems, others, yes, problem. Facial? Yeah, I could handle it. But I don’t. I find it denigrating, so I just duck away. It would depend on the man and the occasion.
I don’t think chicks should be expected to swallow. If you don’t want to, don’t, and don’t apologize for it. That’s simply your line and it has to be respected. Sucking a guy to the edge if orgasm and finishing him by handjob or by mounting him and finishing the old-fashioned way isn’t copping out.
If he’s really hung up on you swallowing, then tell him to change his diet so his cum’s sweeter. It’s a known fact that vegetarians have better-tasting cum. Beef and other foods drastically affect the taste. Some say parsley will sweeten the pot. But realistically, is he going to go to that extreme? Probably not. Yet he wants you to swallow? Well, will he swallow his own? Like one of my lovely readers says, if a guy expects it of you, he better be willing to do the same.
Like I say, sometimes I do, sometimes I don’t. Usually, I don’t. I’ve never, ever had a complaint. Just the opposite. The guy who gasped thanking me for three minutes? Swallowed some, but put the rest all over his body as I sucked, nibbled, and licked my way back up to his face, and he didn’t mind a damned bit.
All you really need to know about me is I get the job done. Every time. And with these tricks and dedication, so will you.
Have fun, take your time, and remember: Details. The devil’s in the details.

25 thoughts on “The Good Girl's Guide to Giving GREAT Head Pt. 2

  1. Grover

    What influences (and specifically, improves) the taste of cum? I’ve heard coffee and chocolate make it bitter…

    … two of my favorite things ever. 🙁

  2. scribe called steff

    Oh, I just reedited it. Go back and reread it. Beef’s a major culprit, but I haven’t really investigated what affects semen taste.

    Haven’t heard about coffee and chocolate, but that’s believable.

    The best I’d ever tasted was a day after the guy had had a parsley-filled Middle Eastern chicken dish I’d served him with some tabouleh (also parsley filled — clearly I had motives).

    But we ate a LOT of chocolate. I think he wasn’t a coffee-drinker, though.

  3. Myssa

    The other thing to do, instead of chocolate sauce is honey…Honey sticks a little more, so it doesn’t get nearly as messy (atleast not for me) and you reallly have to lick & suck to get all the remnants of that off…I’ve never had any complaints of the honey trick.

  4. Walking Wounded

    I heard coffee makes it bitter too, but don’t know about the chocolate although with the caffeine it could possibly bitter things up. Thank heaven I don’t eat a lot of red meat.

    Also, you didn’t go into too much detailon how you massage a guy’s prostate during oral. Obviously, there are additional points of prep that should be made. I recall a girl who tried to stimulate my prostate “dry” and it was a bitawkward to say the least, although I did appreciate her intent. And I let her know just how much when it was my turn.

    But, yeah, that might need to be covered.


  5. scribe called steff

    Myssa — I said honey. It’s in there, you just skimmed past it. 🙂 Honey rocks.

    WW — What points of prep would you suggest? I haven’t really had a guy comment on that before. A little lube has been all I’ve ever done.

  6. Simply Her

    Hmm. Good Ideas.
    &I think my guy is in for a treat, I really do want to try the blind folding & the chocolate syrup sounds delicious. Great techniques to test & use out.<3

  7. Grover

    I have one point of prep: Mr. Reiki used astroglide and latex gloves when teaching me to relax down there. The exam gloves weren’t so much for sanitation as they were to protect me from hangnails and other rough edges.

    Very very comfortable.

  8. Walking Wounded

    Well, after thinking about this, lube has to be present indeed. But I have found that most if not all of my male friends have no idea about this. So obviously, not that many women are doing this for their men. They may need enlightenment and the benefit of your very descriptive, very practical approach to sex. Just a thought!


  9. Digitalicat

    Maybe I’m the only one to notice this, but that picture at the top of the post looks a lot like The Mummy.

  10. scribe called steff

    Grover — I wouldn’t be down with latex gloves. That’s way too… I don’t know, clinical for me. It’d kill any mood I had. Sex is skin on skin. Period. Yes, I use condoms, RELIGIOUSLY. It’s too bad we have to, though, and I ain’t bringing gloves into my love other than the condoms.

    But glad it’s working for you.

    Walking Wounded — Wow, chicks don’t do that? That’s another trick I’d read about in Sex Tips. Okay, maybe that’ll get addressed in the future. It’s not a pressing need for me to write about it right now, but definitely bring it up later this week when I’m fielding topics and questions for future posts. (Stay tuned.)

    Digitalicat — He’s got Celtic insignias shadowing on him, dude. 😛 Ain’t no Egyptian. Heh. Welcome to my rag of filth, Digi. 🙂

  11. scribe called steff

    Oh, and how can I forget Simply Her?

    I expect a full report! Let me know how it goes down.

    Err, pun absolutely intended.

    heh. 😉

    If he starts bowing to you or following you around like a lovesick puppy, you can send me some dark chocolate to thank me.

    Don’t forget to buy yourself a drink warmer plate so you have a bowl of hot oil for that massage. Get things started on the warmer side of it all…

    Speaking of chocolate, now I’m gonna go buy some. Yay!

  12. Myssa

    Ooops you’re right – I did skim that part… 😉 See, the other half was peeking over my shoulder as I was cruising through, and said “Honey why are you reading that? You don’t need any work on your fellatio!” I beamed, then wanted to leave a comment before taking off to go play… 🙂

  13. scribe called steff

    Heh. Nice. One can always improve, though. 😉

    I always try to keep my learning curve aimed uphill.

    Constant vigilance!

    I hope playtime was fun and exciting.

  14. shamangirl

    One thing I’ve found is a man’s mood and state of rest can play a big part in how his cum tastes.


  15. Anonymous

    Drinking tropical fruit juices helps with the taste of cum – pineapple and mango especially.

  16. A Scribe Called Steff

    More comments from when this was reposted on the Second Incarnation of this blog:
    Posted April 21, 2008 at 3:20 am | Permalink |
    You are a dude. No woman would recall this much detail unless she had a dick herself.
    Scribe Called Steff
    Posted April 21, 2008 at 10:28 am | Permalink |
    No woman would recall this much detail? Get over yourself. Sorry, honey, but I’m female. If that shatters your illusions, then that’s not my concern. Whatever.
    No GUY would think this detailed about getting a hummer. He just wants it sucked.

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  19. Anonymous

    i know this post is old
    but what exactly do you mean by “facial”? and in context of your post i dont even understand it!
    but a great post! i guess my bf will be getting more surprises 😉

  20. Lina

    So, I have been with my boyfriend for about eight months now. And he has made it evident that he would enjoy if I would do this. He has done this for me, selflessly for a long time a quite a few times, so I think I should and I’d like to return the favor.. But I’ve NEVER done this. And I’m pretty nervous. I’m sure I’ll “get the job done”, but I want to be great at it.. I’d like to shock and wow him actually..
    Anyways, I had a hard time understanding the part about going on him side ways? Like cornofthecob sideways? ha And also any extra advice/tips for a beginner?

  21. Prtykty95

    I tried some of these out on my boyfriend last night while he was blind-folded and it worked amazingly well! He loved every bit of it and it kept him wanting more. Also, I always thought I’d get a weird reaction if I didn’t swallow so I always have, last night I decided to listen to you and spit it out, he didn’t mind at all. He said that he finds it weird that so many girls like to and he doesn’t expect me to do it if I’m not into it. Thank you so much!!

  22. Anonymous

    I’m a guy. Stumbled across this post while searching for a book title to recomend to someone I know. Couldn’t find the book I was looking for, but I believe this is better.
    So if you’re wondering how correct this stuff really is or what a guy thinks of all this stuff… having read part 1 & 2 p, I have to say the author absolutely knows what she’s talking about. Even as an instructional, it got me ridiculously wound up & excited to the point that I’m squirming right now just imagining it.
    All I’ll add is that honestly… I see nothing demeaning or degrading about facials. But it of course depends on the people involved. It’s a visual thing & guys are visual creatures. To me there’s no sexier sight than a smiling, sticky wet face. Your results may very

  23. Maro

    Can STD’s be transmitted via oral sex? Can you do this when he’s wearing a condom? What about areas around my mouth that are not protected?

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