About Steff
This is my interstellar craft of truth and wit. Buckle up. If you want celebrity gossip, this is not the blog for you. If you want comfortable postings that’ll fill you with happy fuzzy thoughts about the world at large, or self-help guru shit, this is not the blog for you.
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Tag Archives: learning about yourself
As a so-called sex writer, I went off the reservation a long, long time ago. As a writer, I’m writing a book, and it means revisiting all my work from the last few years. In the process, I’m tagging & categorizing all my posts so you’ll have an easier time to search relevant topics. But, boy, [...]
Posted in Autobiographical, Dating, Dimestore Philosophy, Journalling, keeping it real, Opinion (Editorial & Commentary), Self-Love & Self-Esteem, Sex, sexuality, Specifically Steff, writing Also tagged Al Pacino, Any Given Sunday, becoming a better lover, Being single, blogging about sex, Dating, dating again, eroticism, groaning, learning your sexuality, libido, loud lovers, moaning, noise during sex, philosophy on sex, Sex, sex blogging, sexual journey, sexuality, sharing sexuality, why i write about sex, why writing about sex matters 1 Comment
Apr
06
2009
Occam’s Razor
Denis Leary was on Letterman the other night and was joking that he’d gone through five marriage counsellors that “sucked” before he found the sixth, who was awesome, but then he said that once he accepted he was wrong, everything went gr-r-r-reat with counselling. I had to laugh. I’ve been having the same epiphany of late. For [...]
Jan
21
2006
Here’s to the Forty Percent
Masturbation is a sin. If you do it, you will never be able to be satisfied by your lover. If you do it, you will become addicted to it and will never be able to control yourself, even in public. If you do it, you will be a dirty woman. If you do it, everyone [...]
Posted in Best of Steff, dysfunction, feminism, Foreplay & Arousing, How To Guides, Hygiene & Health, keeping it real, Loving and Knowing Yourself, Masturbation, Opinion (Editorial & Commentary), Sex, Sex Education, sexuality, Women's Department Also tagged 40% of women don't masturbate, comfort, hang-ups, issues, Masturbation, repressed, self-love, sex statistics, sexual skill, touching yourself, who masturbates, why women won't touch themselves, why you should masturbate, women who are squeamish 17 Comments
Jan
20
2006
Why 40% of Women Don’t Masturbate
Every now and then male-female relations seem like a bad day at the UN. Understanding the issues is imperative, but no one speaks the same language. John Gray got rich off the chaos that exists in that weird little world of relationships, by telling us that men were from Mars, and women from Venus. It’s [...]
Posted in Advice, Best of Steff, feminism, keeping it real, Loving and Knowing Yourself, Masturbation, Modern Feminism, Sex, Uncategorized, Women's Department Also tagged comfort, hang-ups, Masturbation, self-love, sexual skill, touching yourself, who masturbates, why you should masturbate 44 Comments
And I’ve been thinking about masturbation. Not doing it, writing about it. I still want to hear more results and comments and emails based on the letter down below, but I think this topic is growing in importance for me. Yes, guys need to understand more about female masturbation – but so do 40% of the [...]
Posted in Advice, Best of Steff, dysfunction, Education, feminism, Foreplay & Arousing, How To Guides, Masturbation, Modern Feminism, Orgasm Trouble, Sex, Sex Education, Sex Toys & Aids, sexuality, Society, Women's Department Also tagged comfort, hang-ups, how to masturbate, learning to masturbate, Masturbation, self-love, sexual skill, touching yourself, who masturbates, why you should masturbate 12 Comments
The Struggle to Identify Your Struggle